Emotionally unavailable vs. Nonchalant. Being “nonchalant” is just a role people play to perform in dating. Pretending not to care just so people will like you more is actually sick. To maintain power, you must be in control of your emotions, but once you’ve begun to weaponize the other person’s feelings to gain authority and have the upper hand, you’ve gone too far. Calmness and security are what we’d hope for in dating, not a competition between two people who care to prove they don’t care more than one another. Being "emotionally unavailable" but still open to date makes no sense. How can you grow if you’re not willing to feel growing pains? Our brains confuse the task of pursuing and the feeling of confusion with attraction. I won’t settle for confusion, only for security.

A few days ago I heard the song “Purple rain” by Prince on tik tok. I heard it playing behind an edit. When i heard the song the lyrics that stuck out to me the most were

Being the last one to get the memo feels like being proclaimed the "rotten egg". Was I ignoring the signs? Were the red flags apparent early on? Am I too forgiving? Am I people-pleasing? How do I move forward from here?

Typically, when we think of the phrase “good grief,” we think of emotions like shock, frustration, or exhaustion. Why do we never think about what those two words could really mean? And by that, I mean relief, a shift in direction, or sudden silence. I’ve been thinking about the phrase differently. What if some grief is actually good? Not enjoyable, not easy, sometimes lengthy, but necessary. The rainbow after the storm. Some endings may seem or feel devastating, but they can also be quietly making room for growth. Maybe instead of being frustrated, we should be relieved.

This endless cycle of doubling back, late-night texts, No Caller ID’s, “I miss you”’s, unnecessary check-ins, and random calls. Popping up out of nowhere, pulling up unannounced, and trying to make me remember a spark that no longer exists makes me feels so restless.

If any concept or behavior was perfect for the saying “for the birds,” it would be breadcrumbing. Breadcrumbing can be done both unintentionally and intentionally, and both can have a very painful impact on the affected individual’s mental health and self-image. I think we’ve all been on both sides of the issue.

Why is having a crush is so embarrassing? I always feel so humiliated when I realize I actually like someone because...HOW? I literally don't like anything about anyone. My brain and body chose you!!! Truthfully having a crush gives me motivation to do better and look better. The amount of anxiety i've felt just liking someone makes me wanna throw up. 

I believe everything is so casual these days. Casual dating, casual sex, situationships, and fake relationships. Where are the people who enjoy intentional, authentic , meaningful and slow-burn connections? Whatever happened to being scared to “sleep around”? (Is anybody worried about their health????)

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